Disastrous Date Plans
U/adkichar55: “While driving, she gave me her phone so I could use the navigation. I held her phone while she received a message from another man. When I told her that their friendship unnerved me, she assured me that there was nothing to be concerned about.
However, after reading the post, I started crying. When should he pick her up for their date, he wanted to know. Calmly, I asked her how I ought to reply.”
Living a Fantasy
U/itsathrowawai: “I’ve been with my wife for fifteen years, and we were married for two years. Following some medical testing, we discovered that getting pregnant was practically impossible. One day, she came home and informed me that she was expecting and that we were considering adopting. We scheduled a time to get her blood drawn a week later. Her response alarmed me, even if the test result was negative in the end.
She insisted that the doctor was mistaken and that she was pregnant. My spouse is utterly deluded. She’s buying clothes for them. She is putting pressure on me to begin in the nursery. My inaction is making her believe that I want to leave them and that I am going to doom my wife into the life of a single mom. I love her, but I don’t know what to do.”
It Takes Two
U/dudius: “One day, when she was at my house, she sent a lot of texts to someone. She informed me that during the previous weekend, she had made a new buddy at a party. I didn’t press the topic even though it didn’t seem like a friendship. She told me the following day that we should split up, and although I was shocked, I didn’t resist. She then attempted to reconcile a week later.
She texted me to say she missed me, but I warned her that I would only accept her return if she could genuinely corroborate my concerns. She acknowledged that he went by Andrew and that their relationship didn’t work out in the end. After reading it, I felt satisfied and prepared to get my sweet retribution on her. I replied to her text by saying, “I guess we’re both liars now,” and I blocked her number. “
Fearing the Worst
U/ThrowRA09060906: “As a flight attendant, my wife frequently takes lengthy international flights. Since she wasn’t going to be home for our second anniversary, which was last week, I decided to give her a surprise card and one of several gifts. But before she was about to leave, I was going to bury it in her suitcase. That’s when I came across them.
They included a pair of heels and brand-new-looking white lace items that I had never seen before. I am now afraid of the worst—infidelity—because of this. I didn’t leave the card and present, so she doesn’t know I saw it, but she’s now returned home and disappeared once more. I am going crazy with the thoughts of her with another man, but I don’t have concrete proof.”
No Survival Skills
U/Belisar002: “She almost caught my kitchen on fire when she heated up her travel coffee cup in my microwave. It was obviously made of stainless steel and non-microwavable plastic. Inside that microwave, pitch-black smoke was starting to flow out, and lightning was starting to form.
She became irritated with me for being offended by this, and that’s when I understood that this woman, with all her beauty, kindness, and general goodness, was devoid of common sense and a livable IQ. This last decision was affected by earlier acts, but in my opinion, this action—and the silence around it—completed the picture.”
No Table Manners
U/Bobson_Dugb: “I went out to supper with my date, who was the manager of a restaurant. He was nearly always impolite to the employees there.
‘Do you want to see how long it takes me to persuade this waitress to apologize to us?’ he asked. I had had enough and stood up, leaving twenty on the table. The server was excellent; she only misplaced one extra water bottle.”
Girlfriend’s Secret
U/TorrenceMightingale: “A patient of mine had visited the ER with a UTI once. She had been seeing her partner for four months, and despite only having a UTI, she was being very dramatic. We informed her that a urine test was necessary. It was somewhat rare that she insisted on having a catheter inserted, which the other nurse and I did as she lay on the gurney.
The nurse then let out a spine-tingling scream. Make an L&D call! She’s amazing! The girl insisted she was unaware that she was expecting. Her boyfriend stood there, a bit taken aback, as they wheeled her off to a postpartum recovery room. ‘We have only been dating for four months. I had no idea she was pregnant. She never mentioned it at all.'”
Reality Check
U/esyougeeayeare: “My ex had a broken back in a motorcycle accident. While he was somewhat incoherent, I took care of all of his paperwork and insurance claims.
When I was away for a week, I required some information from his phone and discovered that he was seeing another girl. He pretended to be confused, but I believe that after I left the room, reality set in.”
Didn’t Go as Planned
U/anythingrandom5: “When my wife told me that a man from her workplace was pursuing her, I warned him that I was aware of his actions and that he had to avoid her at all costs. The absurd thing is that he was unaware that my wife had accused him of stalking her. He thought I was referring to their ongoing affair.
He was so terrified that he rushed straight home to his wife and told her. My wife hadn’t disclosed the alibi she was employing to her betrayed lover; she was merely trying to persuade me to get rid of him for her. After he confessed to his wife, she called me in tears and asked how I know about the situation. It was a confusing conversation until I realized the truth of the situation.”
Secret Accounts
U/Traditional-Resist45: “To put things in perspective, my wife and I have been married for ten years. We have two boys, ages six and ten. My spouse is a homemaker, and I work a full-time job. We manage our finances well enough to put food on the table and pay our bills, but we don’t take annual vacations abroad. I discovered an unexpected transfer last night while browsing our shared bank account online (around $100 so not significant). I found this strange, so I checked the transaction history and noticed that this account has had a number of transfers; neither the frequency nor the value seem to follow a pattern.
After I challenged her, my wife finally acknowledged that she hadn’t told me about her separate bank account.I wanted to view the balance and the purchases she had made, but she wouldn’t show me the account online. I didn’t speak to her again before going to bed. I located her bank card after looking through her wallet. I stopped at an ATM on my way home from the gym to check my balance, and there were just a few hundred bucks in there. She hasn’t bought any pricey items out of the blue, such as new jewelry or designer clothing. I’m stumped as to why she declined to give me access to the online banking credentials. She seems to be really “
Daddy Issues
U/PlayfulPickle4501: “My dad (42M) has four children. My dad has a son from a previous marriage who is now 7. After after that, my dad married my stepmom (26F), with whom he had two kids: a boy who recently turned one and a girl who is currently four years old. There was a brief pause between my first employment as a dental assistant and my time in school. My dad and stepmom requested that I watch my brothers and sister since they were having trouble finding daycare. My siblings are dear to me. However, my dad isn’t the same. He doesn’t show respect for me or any other lady; he is a narcissist. I asked him whether he was going to compensate me for these services when he requested that I watch them. When I told him that, he hung up the phone in a fit of rage.
He then wrote me some long text messages in the quote, ‘If you are going to be that conceited about money, then stay home. Don’t worry; 1 won’t be asking you for any help in the future when it comes to your siblings. We spoiled you, and now we see what that produced—a pampered, conceited person who is solely concerned with themselves and their financial situation. Remember that I wasn’t making a lot of requests. I have met all of my other needs, including paying my rent and tuition. I just requested payment from him for watching the kids since I had a lot of work to do, and this was meant to be my vacation from work and school. I believe that since I did not choose for him to have children, I am not obligated to monitor them. Because of this dispute, I haven’t spoken to my dad in almost three months. “
On a Short Leash
U/anorangehorse: “As a result, my close buddy Aaron and his partner Mary have been together for nearly seven years. They are what I would personally describe as highly co-dependent. They truly don’t have any buddies besides one another. She actually limits his freedom of movement in several ways. Because Aaron is a total jerk and believes she can do no wrong, they are still together.
Here’s the problem now: I spent some time hanging out with Mary’s buddy Alison a few weeks ago. Alison told me about the party they attended, where Mary drank too much and had an affair with her former partner. Aaron is unaware of these connections. It will destroy him and ruin their entire relationship, and maybe a friendship as well. However, I think in the long term, he will be unhappy with a marriage where she’s so controlling.”
Dear Diary
U/PurgatoryMountain: “I was seriously dating this girl for over a year. She took a shower one night when I was at her house. As I was playing with her iPad on the floor, I looked beneath her bed and saw a book. When I opened it, I expected to see lovely sketches, but what I saw was her diary. She wrote about the several men she had cheated on me with.
I asked her to explain when I contacted one of her friends, with whom I had grown close. After I got out of the shower, my girlfriend asked me why I had left. I informed her that it was finished between us after reading her diary. My girlfriend and three of her friends had made a pact. They were all in on it together… They’d rent hotel rooms together, cover for each other, and make detailed notes so no one found out.”
That’s Not Me
U/DJdisonanca99: “Everything in my new relationship seemed to be going well. She asked me to come meet her friends, and I had a conversation with each of them.
I was hitting it off with one of the guys when I presented myself as so-and-so’s boyfriend. With excitement, he exclaimed, “Oh, you’re Jake!” Just so you know, my name is Anthony.”
Caught in Action
U/hoocares: “I had been allowed to watch a Netflix movie on his iPad by my then-boyfriend. Messages started appearing on his messenger account, which was connected to both his phone and tablet, while I was watching, and he was unaware that I could see it.
I was able to see in real time as he persuaded the wife of his closest friend to spend the upcoming holiday weekend with him in exchange for his getting rid of me so they could spend quality time together in our bed.”
The Getaway
“My significant other pleasantly surprised me with a weekend trip to an expensive hotel. The receptionist looked at us strangely as we checked in. “Sir, I’m sorry, but there seems to be a problem with your reservation,” said the receptionist. Boyfriend: “How come?” However, I reserved the spot weeks ago! “Well, someone named “Jessica” cancelled it just a few hours ago,” said the receptionist.
Sweetheart: “Jessica?” I’ve never met Jessica. “Jessica, like in your boss Jessica,” I said. How were you able to? Although I was aware that you were putting in more hours at work, I mistakenly believed that you were doing it in order to save money for a ring. His previously enigmatic actions began to make sense. I finally got the courage to end the relationship once and for all. I even made him book me a room at the hotel just for myself.”
Self-Esteem Hit
U/THROWRAsjaja2828: “After two years of dating, I believed my partner was drawn to the entire me. Last night, everything was different. He invited his pals over. Although we’re not that close, I’m fine with it and normally head upstairs when they come over to play video games. Even though the door was closed, I paused to listen. They mentioned my name; come on, I know it’s improper to listen in! The companion continued, calling me a “butterface” without makeup despite having a large butt and lovely cans. My boyfriend laughed at that!
Somehow, his response was worse than all of that: “Her body is perfect.” I hate to admit it, but my sense of worth suffered. It hurt worse to know that my boyfriend laughed and didn’t defend my looks. He’s attracted to my body and not my face…”
One Eye Open
U/GAU8: “I went over, and we ended up arguing, so I ended up sleeping on the floor. Since I thought my friend had fallen asleep, I went to the restroom to contact her to come get me. ‘Where are you?’ is the first text I receive from her. I opened the bathroom door in a frozen state. In the shadows, she was already waiting for me, standing there.
She just gazed at me till I passed, without saying anything. Returning to my spot on the floor, I hid beneath the cover and pretended to sleep until she fell asleep. About thirty minutes later, I made the decision to get out from beneath the blankets and…she was literally towering over me in total darkness with her eyes wide open the entire time.”
Disturbing Confession
U/throwramerr: “I made the decision to move back to our home state for a few months with my boyfriend, which would require an 8-hour commute. We got into a heated argument just before we left. Let’s fast-forward to our drive, and shortly after, we started going…I went to sleep. I can hardly even recall going to sleep. I briefly woke up once, drank some Gatorade he gave me, and went back to sleep.
I was not weary at all, so I thought this was really strange. He revealed an unsettling confession yesterday. He casually said, “He wishes he could do— me more when I ‘act out.'”I inquired about what he was discussing. Then he tells me that he mixed Benadryl with my drink. I went to bed in order to spare him the hassle of dealing with me. I’m still in shock and disbelief about what we discussed. “
Time of Turmoil
U/QRT_W: “My closest friend assumed I already knew, so she unintentionally revealed it in a Facebook message. I was relieved, as I had always suspected but never had any evidence. My wife attempted to claim that the man had forcefully taken advantage of her when I challenged her. After I rejected her deception, she eventually admitted.
The worst part is that, in spite of everything, we continued to be together for a further seven years. Our relationship never really recovered despite our best efforts to make it work. She’s a raging narcissist who can’t take responsibility for her faults thus it was chaos. After a final breakup in March 2017, she moved in with someone else and raised their child with two newly acquired dogs to replace the ones we had together. Two months later, I finally broke up with her.”
Complete Opposites
U/Tousca: “When I made tuna salad, we had been living together for at least two months and dating for a good six to eight months. I returned with two bowls, half prepared the way he liked and the other half the way I preferred. The two distinct versions totally frightened him out. “How will this ever work if we can’t agree on how to eat tuna?” he exclaimed. I remarked that we don’t have to agree in order to be happy; we can each have it precisely how we want it. He strongly objected.
Then, I began to consider all of his other domineering actions and his unwillingness to make concessions.It wasn’t that day that we broke up, but it was definitely the day our relationship broke. The cheating didn’t help either.”
Lucky Streak
U/ElToberino: “For a month, I was in Denver for work. We were going to go on a date night when I got home, but while I was driving back that evening, she called me sobbing. All through the chat, my heart ached. She admitted to having slept with someone else.
The’someone’ in question turned out to be her ex-husband. Not only that, but I was fortunate in that she contacted a few months later with positive STD results, which I also managed to avoid.”
Changed Man
U/ThrowRA_healthful: “Even though I knew my spouse was an obese, slothful video game enthusiast when we got married, I still loved him for his gentle nature and big heart. Two years prior, on a camping vacation with his mates, he returned home to find something had started a fire under his butt. He totally altered his interests; instead of playing video games, he started running and started reading books, even though I had never seen him read anything but school texts before.Despite having always been a lover of meat and potatoes, he decided to become a vegetarian.”
A Unique Date
U/wsawyer12: “I was in college and dating this girl.We both enjoyed attending smaller, emo-style bands’ live performances. Anyway, I accompanied her to Dallas along with a few other friends and my sister, who also happened to be dating the lead singer of one of the bands playing at the performance. We were all hanging around in the bar section that felt like a cellar with a lot of the band members long after the event.
As we were laughing and chatting away, my girlfriend said, “This looks like a really good place to screech.” Thus, perplexed…”Screech?” asks one of the band members. And then my girlfriend lets out this scream right away, turning everyone around in the room to watch.I knew the exact moment that I was done with a relationship…we got back to town, I…said, ‘Well, it’s been fun, but this relationship just isn’t going to work for me.’”
Game Over
U/Cupcake_Octopus: “When I was in high school, I dated a man. He was one of the first guys I dated that didn’t break up with me after a week, so I felt he was fairly great. I finally went over to his place to spend time with him after about three months of dating—it took some convincing to get my mom to let me—and we were playing Super Smash Brothers.
I’d previously informed him that, having grown up with two elder brothers and played the game often, I was pretty good at it. I promise I’ve never seen a man act like a kid after I hit him once. He screamed, threw his controller at the ground, and started cussing at me and the game. I grabbed my things and got out of there and never looked back.”
On Record
U/SnooLentils314: “After a few wonderful years of marriage, he became anxious when we had a child. He eventually wanted to be left alone. After ten months, I discovered a device that I wasn’t familiar with when I added a new Amazon Echo to our family’s Prime account. It was connected to our account, so I could listen to and replay voice requests.
There was a recording that gave me goosebumps. My spouse said, “Alexa, play lovely love songs,” and I could hear private sounds in the background. As it turned out, he was sleeping with one of his coworkers. When I originally shared this on social media, it got picked up by a tabloid newspaper with the headline ‘Amazon Slimeball’ which is now what is saved as in my contacts forever.”
In Denial
U/notthedad19: “We’ve been together since high school and have been married for ten years. Megan, my spouse’s closest friend, and I are employed by the same organization, but in separate divisions. She told me she had to tell me something yesterday and wanted to meet with me after work. She instantly broke down and began crying when I met her. In an attempt to comfort her, I inquired as to what might be wrong.
She then revealed to me that her husband and my wife were having an affair. She also revealed to me that the biological father of my daughter, age three, was her husband. Upon confronting my spouse, she attempted to refute all of it. But when I told her that Megan told me about it, she broke down and started crying, too. I really don’t know what to do. I mean, everything was a lie, right?”
Those Three Words
U/321zzz: “My profession is anesthesia. The usual technique for doing C-sections is spinal anesthesia.I have witnessed this numerous times, but one instance in particular comes to mind when the infant was clearly not Caucasian and the parents were. Obviously, the real father had to be quite dark-skinned. Upon witnessing the kid being delivered, the non-father just glanced down at his wife, who was in tears, and said the three words that everyone was thinking: “You’re a cheater.”
Then he turned to leave. She began to scream for him to return, but as she was still having surgery, there wasn’t much she could do. She went so crazy that I had to take her to the hospital for a brief sleep because she was in danger. “
Love Getaway
“I learned about it via her blog. I’m not sure if she simply didn’t care or if she forgot that I had agreed to help her. In-depth information regarding her ultimate discovery of “real love in the world” was provided in the blog article.
She shared it while on what appeared to be a work trip, but turned out to be a week-long getaway with the other guy. I sent the motel with her belongings.”
Secondhand News
U/PessismisticPanda: “Since my partner at the time didn’t have a phone, she would use her friends’ gadgets to get in touch with me. I texted a few of their numbers one day in an attempt to reach her. A startling response arrived in a matter of minutes, and it struck me as strongly as a runaway train: “You must stop.”
She is seeing someone else after breaking up with you. Give her some space. This was not at all accurate. We hadn’t split up.To be exact, we had planned her ideal birthday trip to Italy.“
Sneaking Suspicions
U/Ilunibi: “A female friend of his who had known him for a long time was spending the night. We were upstairs, and she was asleep in the bedroom in the basement. He startled me up in the middle of the night by sneaking out of bed. He informed me he had to use the restroom after realizing.
As I laid there and listened to him go down the hall, past the restroom, and down the stairs, I suppose I already had my suspicions. I did what I was told. and discovered him preparing to spend the night with her in the basement. I see. I was not content as a puppy. was foolish and made an attempt to keep our engagement going, but he departed because I wasn’t “fun anymore.””
